There are some topics I stay away from and there is a strategic reason why. From my experience, doing relationship articles, does get me more page views, but also attracts a bad crowd.
Everybody on the internet is a Casanova or has figured out the ‘what’ and ‘why’ of it all. From the comments I can tell who usually gets and who doesn’t. But I don’t want that type of crowd.
The two pieces of advice I’ve given myself is, “You attract what you write.”
And, “You attract what you think.”
Because if you think about it, if you’ve got a negative mentality, then you will naturally attract those types of people. Likewise, if you’ve got a positive mentality you will attract that.
Relationship advice is like politics. Everybody got an opinion and everyone wants to fight over that opinion. When you start noticing patterns, then you will adjust and ask yourself, is this the hill I want to die on?
Does fighting over relationship advice what I want to be known for? Not really.
Attract like minded people
From all my writings, the most positive group of people are the ‘how to’ audience. I constantly get thanked on YouTube for doing a tutorial on how to hardsub. It’s not my best video and my voice was low and too slow. But today it has over 55,000 views.
- Just a simple reply to someone makes their day. I think I replied to someone within an hour and they were like, “wow thanks for the quick reply!” Almost 99% of the comments are positive.
The tutorial has to be good. If it sucks then people will complain that I didn’t explain enough.
The ‘how to’ audience
If you think about it, the ‘how to’ audience are people who want to learn. These are people who take time out of their day to learn a skill that will help them grow their channel or business.
That’s the best type of people in my book.
Also the ‘how to’ audience likes to read books and long articles.
Writing for the how to audience
A good guide, tutorial, or how to needs to go in depth. If you can cover all the basic points of something without adding ‘filler’ or ‘fluff’ then it will be a good tutorial.
- The worst thing, is blabbing on and on for 5 minutes and then showing people how to do something.
I hate it, and I don’t do it in my video tutorials.
If you can show people how to do something, then they are more likely to trust you on other topics you write about.
Talking about sex
Speaking of sex, I did another video called, 9 facts about Japanese sex culture. It’s got over 100,000 views and everyday I get traffic from Google to the article.
One thing I’ve noticed is people don’t click around at all when they land on this type of article.
It’s similar to a story I heard about these attractive ladies who had a big YouTube channel and were always wearing bikini’s, dancing around, and providing little to no content.
- Eventually they decided they wanted to sell bikini’s but no one was buying. It was because probably 90% of their audience was male and were there for one reason only. Pay attention to your analytics.
Don’t get me wrong. Sex does sell and get page views. But is that the crowd you want? Are they mostly positive or complain too much?
The people who do click around are always the ‘how to’ audience. It’s a pattern I’ve noticed and I’ve adjusted my writing.
If you’ve spent a lot of time explaining how to do something and you get a lot questions, then maybe it’s time to build a bigger and better ‘how to’ tutorial. That’s where you create a product and show people step-by-step something complicated.
The Law of Attraction
The law is simple. You attract what you visualize. If you want to be surrounded by like minded people then visualize it and the answer will come.
Visualizing and asking for what you want is a powerful technique that I use all the time.
But you have to be paying attention. The universe will give you an answer but it might not be what you what you wanted.
If you’ve ever heard the phrase, “be careful what you wish for” then the Law of Attraction works in a similar manor.
- That’s why when you ask, be specific. Go into the details about how you feel and where you will be standing when that ‘thing’ you visualize takes place. Maybe you want 100,000 subscribers to your YouTube channel. Good. Then start visualizing everyday what that will look like.
I recommend getting a Eureka Shower Board, or some aqua notes to use while you shower. Why? Because the first thing you see in the morning should be what you want to accomplish and what you want to happen.
You’re going to stand in the shower anyway. You might as well stare at some goals you’ve written down.
Conor McGregor would always visualize how he would knockout an opponent, and sure enough what he visualized wound up happening.