They say definition of hell is:
“The last day you have on Earth, the person you became, will meet the person you could’ve become.”
Imagine this, and through the process of elimination you will know what you don’t want. With that out of the way reflect on the present…
What do you want to happen? It’s probably the opposite.
If you don’t want to be alone at the end. Then become a man of options.
If you don’t want to be tied down. Then become free.
If you don’t want to leave this world without accomplishing something. Then leave your mark.
After that it’s just a matter of time + effort.
But nothing in life is ever that simple. So here are some more things to think about…
I just typed in these two question into Google search. Here are the results:
“What do I do with my life ?” 116,000,000 results and “How do I find my passion ?” 45,600,000 results as well.
Millions of people are searching for that magic thing that turns work into play.
But the thing is, they’re just the same as people searching for that magic pill that turns fat into abs…
Work into play ? Silver into gold ? Water into wine ? I think we’ve heard this story before. I haven’t found the magic thing, but I found something ever better.
What if I told this ‘something’ can unlock all your wants and desires in life? I know it sounds too good to be true.
It can make you lose weight. Get muscles. Run faster. Jump higher. Make money. Sleep with more women…
That something is: hard work.
There is no substitute.
Why you should forget about passion for the time being…
4 million people turn 18 every year, and there were only 2 million jobs created in 2016. On top of that, there are millions out of work.
When you know you can be out of a job and you’ve got competition, it should light the fire under you ass to get multiple streams of income.
A lot of life boils down to doing the opposite of what everyone else is doing. People know in the back of their minds, losing their job is a possibility. But do they ever do anything about it? No.
If you want to be like everyone else, then I would stop reading here.
When people say they are searching for a passion or motivation to do something, what they are really asking is, “How can I find something that will magically turn work into play ?”
The truth is all “passions” have things attached to them that require work.
If you want to be a bodybuilder, you will have to either:
- Write about it.
- Speak about it.
- Make a video about it.
- Or outsource it.
You might hate editing videos all day, which is what most YouTubers do. You might hate having a camera in your face. You might hate writing, and you might hate the sound of your voice.
This is the truth no one talks about.
I love going to the gym. But I don’t want a camera in my face. I don’t mind speaking about it in a podcast, and I like writing about it.
The 2nd truth no one talks about is, you can take something you hate and make it into something you don’t mind.
Believe it or not I’m not a writer. I never wrote as a kid, and I struggled to write in college.
But here I am banging out another post. So how did I take something I used to hate and make into something I don’t mind?
You sit down and after while you get good at stringing together sentences. Eventually, something you hate becomes something you don’t mind.
99% of what you read is word thinking…
Here’s a philosophy question for you: A crackhead will spend 4 days, awake, searching for a crumb, is this his passion or is he just highly self-motivated, determined and focused?
You could call him all sorts of things. To some he’s a slave to emotion. To others he’s resourceful. He’s addicted. Ambitious even.
This is like judging a piece of art. Where everyone has a different take on the face of the Mona Lisa.
Scott Adams came up with the term “word thinking.” It’s where we get into the weeds about what something means. I don’t want to get into the weeds so I will just talk about what worked for me in my own language. 99% of what you read on the subject of “finding your passion” will be about word thinking.
Passion. Destiny. Mission in life. Obsession. Life Purpose….
Will vs Ambition. Fortitude vs Self-motivation. Determination vs Passion.
After a while, all these nuances start to look the same.
- Get what they want.
- Get more of what they want.
- Continue getting what they want.
Even if you don’t have a “passion”, everyone on planet Earth has some track record of getting what they want. All the time people lose weight, gain weight, get muscles, get money, complete some marathon or accomplish some goal.
Having a track record of getting what you want, is just a warm up for the big thing you want.
And believe me it will take hard work.
“What you want” determines your focus, will, and motivation
Hard work is made up of lots of things. Focus, will, motivation, ambition, determination, and productivity, are a few. So the question becomes, how do you take ‘hard work’ to the next level?
Many people talk about ways to boost your productivity and focus without talking about the one key ingredient: “What do you want bad enough ?”
“Oh I kinda want this, kinda want that ”
Then you might, kinda focus, kinda slack-off, kinda work on making side money.
One day, you’ll kinda lose your job, and then you’ll kinda be out of luck.
When you want something bad enough — bad enough to crawl through glass, then you’re able to create focus, will, and determination out of thin air.
People will wonder, “What is your secret ? What drugs do you take ? How do you have energy to go all day ?”
The answer is, when you want something bad enough, the energy, focus, motivation, details, and pieces will come to you out of thin air.
If you don’t want something bad enough, all the drugs, books, and techniques won’t work. All that stuff is extra. That stuff is for people who already have the desire.
How to want something bad enough to crawl through glass to get it
The bad news is, I can’t teach you how to want something. That part is up to you. All I can do is help snap you out of the illusions your head and maybe you’ll manufacture your own crisis as a result.
A crisis is a good thing.
It’s an excuse to wipe the slate clean of bad habits, torch ships, burn bridges, and go on the offense. People do this all the time when they look in the mirror and snap. They get tired of seeing the broke versions of themselves, the fat versions of themselves, the weak versions of themselves, and they want something better !
Life is gonna hit you hard anyway, you might as well manufacture your own crisis to figure out what it is you want today. Don’t wait until you hit some kind of mid-life crisis and realize you’ve wasted all those years.
Would you rather wait until its too late? Or manufacture your own crisis now and get shit done ?
The best time to start was yesterday.
You’re probably stilled trapped in everyday illusions we all tell ourselves…
When you’re under an illusion you will tell yourself, “I’m not fat. I’m just big-boned.”
When you snap out of the illusion you will tell yourself, “I was fat. Man what was I thinking?”
Think of all the illusions people are in today…
“I’m getting a degree and then I’m getting a job in my chosen field. My future is set. I’m doing what everyone else is doing.”
“Why is there no jobs? I should have realized 4 million people turn 18 every year, and only 2 million jobs were created in 2016.”
“I finally got a girl. Now time to get fat and lazy and go from a being a lion to a domesticated cat.”
“Why did she leave me? ”
Unique way to size up my strengths and weaknesses
Don’t tell people how to do things, tell them what to do and let them surprise you with their results.
A long time ago, I was told to size up your strengths and weakness and everything will be revealed.
That didn’t work for me. I wanted to get deeper so I developed something to pinpoint things I either overlooked, or were just staring me right in the face.
Believe or not, I’ve met people who are artists with actual talent to draw, but they don’t know what to do with their lives. These days, there’s a thousand different ways to be an artist.
If I hadn’t seen it with my own eyes, I wouldn’t believe it’s possible for some people to be so blind. You’re an artist ! You spend all your time drawing !
Then I’ve seen people with less drawing talent, have a decent audience and they don’t work jobs. Crazy.
So here’s the exercise …
Instead of sizing up strengths and weaknesses, add up all the things you consistently do no matter how dull or abstract.
Write it down.
I brush my teeth. I shower. I take notes and mark up books. I consonantly think about ways to level up. I drive. I eat.
Next ask yourself, “When did you take it too far?”
When did you take driving too far?
I drove over 100mph a couple of times.
When did you take eating or food too far?
I wrote down a recipe for how to make a cobbler because everyone seems to love them.
When did you take note taking too far?
I took really long notes over a book, which looked like an article by the time I finished.
2nd question:“How long did you spend doing the thing you took too far?”
How long did you spend driving over 100mph?
A long stretch of highway.
How long did you spend writing down a recipe?
I had to watch from start to finish, so it took about 1 hour.
How long did you spend taking those notes?
It was over 2 hours.
3rd question: “Can you do this everyday?”
I can’t drive over 100mph all the time. No.
If people buy the cobblers, I could see myself baking them once in a while. Maybe.
I already take notes almost everyday. Yes.
4th question: “What is the end result of maximizing this?”
What’s the end result of being good at driving over 100mph all the time?
I become a race car driver. I die. I get arrested. I get lots of YouTube views.
What’s the end result of being great at baking cobblers?
I make money. I dominate the market. I open a store in any country and never starve.
What’s the end result of being good at taking notes and marking up books?
I make money blogging. I write books that sell. I become well-known.
The more abstract you get with this exercise the deeper you get.
You might consistently make friends or never lose your cool. Go as far as you can and you might be surprised at what you already have.
From doing this exercise, I found that I had something to work with.
What you do consistently = what you can do on auto-pilot.
Taking notes and reading books, isn’t a strength or weakness. It’s just something I already do. I also never even thought of baking cobblers but that’s what this exercise is all about.
It’s something I came up with to pinpoint what it is I should get started on. Nothing more nothing less.
Taking notes and reading books was something I didn’t think you could do anything with, until I asked myself another question, “Can you take something you don’t mind doing, and maximize it ?”
From the outside, you might think I was born a writer…
But all I am is a note taker who learned how to maximize something I was already doing consistently.
You could say my “passion”, “obsession”, “mission in life”, is maximizing a habit I don’t mind doing.
What’s the difference between me and someone who was born to write?
If I had to bet money on someone, I would put money on the person who wants something bad enough to crawl through glass, than a person who was born to do something. Because what they want isn’t limited by their passion, only their imagination.
But maybe that’s just my own illusion.
Either way, having a track record of getting what you want, will put you closer to finding the one magic thing that turns work into play.
Even if you don’t find it, you still win.