One of my favorite ways to reframe a bad situation is to say to myself, “Ok that was just training for what’s to come.”
This technique comes from the book, Gorilla Mindset.
By reframing it this way, you’re subtly telling yourself that you’re going to learn from your mistakes, and once you get through this, you’ll be unstoppable.
Reframing is a powerful tool. But most people use it in the opposite way.
They reframe all situation as something overblown, when it is not.
Recently, I’m going through one of these periods. I’m not gonna lie, you’ve got to dig deep when you’ve got things floating around in your mind that won’t go away.
One of the things I always tell myself is to “meet frustration with right action.” I like to go on the offense any time my back is against the wall. Because playing defense is just sitting around waiting and hoping for something to come your way. Embracing the suck, while taking action, is my prescription I assign myself when things aren’t going my way.
Make a list
What I do is I make a list of things I learned from the experience. Because I’m always living life on the offense, I always know there will be something on the list.
I’ll even put the most subtle and minute things I learned. I’ll do this until I run out of steam.
When I look at the list I can’t help but feel like a winner. Because all those things are just preparation for something bigger that’s coming my way.
What was once hard, is now easy.
It may sting, but whatever rough patch you are going through, make a list of all the things you learned and all the mistakes you aren’t going to repeat.
The 2nd best way to overcome failure is to reframe it as, “bad timing.”
Maybe you struck out with a girl. Ok it’s just, bad timing.
Maybe you didn’t get anyone to your site this month. Ok it’s just bad timing.
Maybe you didn’t meet your goals. Ok it’s just bad timing.
The truth is many situations involve timing and luck. As long as you take action everyday you begin to create your own luck and timing.
Waiting around for a lucky day might happen once a year. If you take action everyday, then the number of lucky days increases. “Luck” is however you want to define it. All I’m saying is that through consistent action you create your own reality.
As long as you are learning from your mistakes you can start reframing things as bad timing.