A favorite quote of mine:
People don’t rise to the occasion. They fall back on there training.
There are times you’re caught off guard and your thoughts spin out of control. No matter how hard you try you can’t turn off the negative thoughts spinning in your head. You keep hitting rewind over and over. Replaying and micro analyzing every detail. Your heart rate is up. Anxiety levels are off the charts. You haven’t eaten much. You wish it would all be over.
- Channel frustration into right action. Right action is putting all that energy and directing it towards something productive. I use the gym as a release valve. What I do is pick a machine and go until my muscles are shaking and I’m red in the face. I don’t keep track of any numbers. The whole point is to release that energy built up inside. Wrong action, is doing something stupid like violence. Channel frustration into right action instead. In addition, I also write like crazy when I’m going through a tough period. Find your medium to channel that energy.
- Sheer willpower. I used this when I was going through a bad situation. It was so bad that I lost around 10 pounds and couldn’t eat or sleep because I was running on anxiety and adrenaline. I was going through a nightmare that wouldn’t end. I told myself, “I’m not thinking about this shit for 1 hour — I don’t care how bad I want to I’m forcing myself to not think about it for 1 hour starting now.” It worked, then the thoughts came back — and they had lost momentum.
- Realize that it’s a battle with yourself. A battle with your mind more than it is with the other person or situation. You need your mind on your side if you are going to pull through. Think about it. It’s an unfair fight if everything is against you and you’ve lost your one true weapon, your mind. Your mind is the most powerful ally you have.
- Change your environment: mentally and physically if possible. The gym is a great place. Outside also works. If you can’t escape then use this 3hour YouTube video clip of “River Sounds.” The one below is my favorite. I used this a lot and still do.
- One thing that is true: there’s always someone who has it harder than you. Someone who lost more than you. Someone who went through more hell than you. Find people with the same experience. Divorce, money problems, having everything taken away — those people somehow came through and are alive today. Find them either online or in real life. When you compare your situation to theirs — all of sudden your situation pales in comparison. It loses it’s steam and momentum.
- Your mind has done some amazing things. Think about it. If you’ve been around a while this is not the first time you’ve gone through something. Remember those times when you’ve won. Take account mentally.
- Read books on mindset so you’re prepared for anything. Anytime I’m in a tough situation or a bad one, I start reading books. I make notes. I analyze every paragraph. The simple act of reading eases my mind and takes my thoughts off of the situation. Books I read are: “Gorilla Mindset”, “The Power of Positive Thinking”, but any book will do.
- Realize that the final blow hasn’t hit you yet. The final blow is one we will all experience but you’re still here. You’re still going.
- Get on a plane and don’t make any plans. What I do is pick a spot on the map and just go. I’ll show up to the airport and I won’t have a plan. I won’t know where anything is, but I’ll figure it out as I go. The least amount of planning I do is to get a hotel, but that’s optional.
Out of all these methods, the one I rely on the most is channeling my frustration into taking right action. You can either bury yourself in busyness or bury yourself in nothingness. For me, staying busy allows me to move on quicker. Think about starting a blog or a website.